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“We are sad for your loss and although we can't possibly know what you are going through. We can imagine it, because we are parents too. Thank you...Read More »
1 of 79 | Posted by: Michelle & Paul Loebbaka

“I'm so very sorry for your loss. I did not know Kodye very well but a friend of mine worked with him and I had talked to him a couple of times at...Read More »
2 of 79 | Posted by: Allissa Wyman - Appleton, WI

“Lisa, I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine how hard this must be for you and your family. I can only hope that your grief subsides...Read More »
3 of 79 | Posted by: Lance Huntington

“Nycole, I am sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. My prayers and thoughts are with you. ”
4 of 79 | Posted by: Connie Braun

“My thoughts and prayers go out to you. I didn't know Kodye but I feel the pain you're going through. We lost our daughter to suicide 8 years ago. It...Read More »
5 of 79 | Posted by: Karen - Appleton, WI

“Thinking of your family. ”
6 of 79 | Posted by: Ruth Peterson - Appleton, WI

“We have a child at Appleton North and heard of your very sad loss. Our hearts break for you. Your are in our thoughts and prayers. Knowing that...Read More »
7 of 79 | Posted by: Kim - Appleton, WI

“I'm so very, very sorry to hear of your loss. My family has been touched by suicide as well. You will be in my prayers, God bless. ”
8 of 79 | Posted by: Todd

“Mike, Lisa and Nycole, We are so very sorry for your loss. Allison lost a very close friend a year ago to suicide and we know the anguish felt by...Read More »
9 of 79 | Posted by: Randy & Sarah Van Camp, Amanda & Allison

“I'm so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I lost multiple uncles to suicide...Read More »
10 of 79 | Posted by: Alaina Boncher

“God bless this family. Wrap your loving arms around them and give them comfort and peace that only You can give. My dear Lord hear these cries from...Read More »
11 of 79 | Posted by: Jean

“What a moving testament of Kodye's heart. Many suffering from depression and mental health issues will be helped by those seeking support in part by...Read More »
12 of 79 | Posted by: Janet Lawrence

“Your former St. Edward family is keeping you in our thoughts and prayers this week. We are praying for your family at Morning Prayer each day. God's...Read More »
13 of 79 | Posted by: Marian Look(Mrs. Look gr. 5)

“I am so sorry for your loss . We lost our son 1 1/2 years ago. He died at 22 from heart disease . I pray for some peace for your family . God Bless ”
14 of 79 | Posted by: Deb Fick

“So sorry for your loss. God bless. I can't even imagine how heart broken you all must be. Prayers ”
15 of 79 | Posted by: Debbie

“Don't know you but any suicide or attempt is near and dear to my heart. So sorry for your loss stay strong. Surviving from sons attempt and we...Read More »
16 of 79 | Posted by: Concerned mother

“I am truly sorry for you loss. May God grace you memories of you beloved family member Kodye. May God wrap is arms around him to give him comfort. My...Read More »
17 of 79 | Posted by: Jo

“My sincerest condolences to all of this young man's friends and family. This is just heartbreaking. ”
18 of 79 | Posted by: Holly Lambrecht

“Mike, Lisa, & Nycole, Our thoughts & prayers are with you in the loss of Kodye here on this earth. We can't even begin to imagine the suffering you...Read More »
19 of 79 | Posted by: Love, Tom & Connie Ryan

“Leaving a prayer for peace for your family in this time, and the future as you move forward. Hold tight to each other and move forward as a family. I...Read More »
20 of 79 | Posted by: Betty jo Balzar

“Kodye I'll miss you! Say hi and give gpa and Tony hugs for me! We love you! ”
21 of 79 | Posted by: Samantha ehm Scheibe

“I am very saddened to hear of Kodye's passing. I knew him for a short time during his 8th grade Einstein Eagle Football Season. I was one of 4...Read More »
22 of 79 | Posted by: Bill Polce - Appleton, WI

“We are so sorry for your loss. Sending thoughts and prayers to all. ”
23 of 79 | Posted by: The Gall Family

“My MOST SINCERE sympathy! I didn't know you - or your family - but I lost my 14 year old nephew about 7 months ago. I know your pain. May the happy...Read More »
24 of 79 | Posted by: Linda

“To loose a child under any condition is not easy, the days, months & years ahead too, will be difficult; ( we lost our child to a 4 month bout with...Read More »
25 of 79 | Posted by: S. S.

“Thank you for supporting Mission 22 and for sharing such poignant heartfelt advice. ”
26 of 79 | Posted by: Jamie Derga - Greenville, WI

“Unfortunately I have never had the pleasure of meeting this young man, but it breaks my heart to see such young people in such despair. Kodye and I...Read More »
27 of 79 | Posted by: Lisa Dorschner

“I don't know the family, but I was sent this message by a very dear friend. My absolute condolences. What you wrote about Kodye is beautiful, and...Read More »
28 of 79 | Posted by: Amy Simon - Kaukauna, WI

“I do you not know you or your loved one, but I am so so sorry for your loss. I commend you for being open about his death. I lost a friend to...Read More »
29 of 79 | Posted by: Britney

“Thank you for your openness and honesty regarding your son's death. Suicide is so difficult and when I lost my son, I found people afraid to talk to...Read More »
30 of 79 | Posted by: L. W.

“My heart goes out to you and your family, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for your beautiful message to all. We offer a...Read More »
31 of 79 | Posted by: Cindy Reffke - Appleton, WI

“I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. May you find peace in God's loving arms. Thank you for the beautiful...Read More »
32 of 79 | Posted by: Cindy Reffke - Appleton, WI

“Deepest sympathy to you all for your devastating loss. A sincere thank you for sharing your story. As a retired death investigator of 20+ years...Read More »
33 of 79 | Posted by: Laurie

“As a former school counselor, I want to thank you for your willingness to share your grief and Kodye's pain. I believe your openness can encourage...Read More »
34 of 79 | Posted by: Lynda Washkoviak - Wautoma

“My condolences. I will hang this on the Cross. My Father in heaven can deal with this much better than I. ”
35 of 79 | Posted by: Bob W.

“Prayers for Nycole and the Fassbender family. This is a beautiful tribute to Kodye. Love to you all. ”
36 of 79 | Posted by: Laura Horne

“Condolences ”
37 of 79 | Posted by: Todd& Diane

“So sorry for your have my sympathy in this time of need. I did not know your son but my great granddaughter did, she is at North High also...Read More »
38 of 79 | Posted by: Gma D.

“Many thoughts and prayers..Kodye will live forever in your minds and hearts. ”
39 of 79 | Posted by: Anne B.

“My heart is breaking for you at this time of sorrow. Please accept my deepest sympathy for this great loss to the entire Fassbender family. ”
40 of 79 | Posted by: Deborah Collins - Fond du Lac, WI

“Do not personally know you but my prayers are with you for comfort and peace. Thank you for bringing this very painful message about suicide...Read More »
41 of 79 | Posted by: Clare and Lou Miller

“Many parents are thanking God for your ability to share this very personal story. Our culture has changed greatly with social media and the world ...Read More »
42 of 79 | Posted by: A friend

“Condolences goes out to the extended families. Kodye, you will be missed ”
43 of 79 | Posted by: Bob Bohr

“Thoughts and prayers to the Fassbenders. Kodye was a great student and a great friend who'll be missed by countless. ”
44 of 79 | Posted by: Justin Hemauer - Appleton, WI

“You honor Kodye's memory with your profound honesty concerning his death. Many of us have suffered through suicide in our families. You will get...Read More »
45 of 79 | Posted by: Cheryl Watson - Appleton, WI

“Our thoughts and prayers are with you! May God give you the strength to get through this very difficult time! Keep the wonderful memories that you...Read More »
46 of 79 | Posted by: Jan Trittin Smits - WI

“My prayers are most certainly going out for Kodye's entire family and friends. Mike, Lisa& Nycole I. have thought of you many times over the lost...Read More »
47 of 79 | Posted by: Evie Kettner

“I did not know Kodye, but my heart goes out to the entire family. I am Carol Hawley's (Tom Fassbender) sister. ”
48 of 79 | Posted by: Sandra Hawley

“There are no words that can fill the void. Just know that we send our most heartfelt condolences and hope you can celebrate Kodye's life through...Read More »
49 of 79 | Posted by: Dawn & Mitch Bessette

“Kodye you are soaring with Angel's, prayers for your family , friends and people you have left here on Earth. with you in your time of sorrow. ”
50 of 79 | Posted by: Kimberly

“We are so saddened by the news of Kodye's passing. These times are so difficult for the loved ones left behind. The "why", and "what if's" are so...Read More »
51 of 79 | Posted by: Kristi Kempen

“I'm so sorry to hear about Kodye. I cannot say I understand how you feel. I can say that I am the parent of 2 teenagers who struggle with...Read More »
52 of 79 | Posted by: Kari Niemann-Fuss

“You have our deepest sympathies. Sending love and prayers!! ”
53 of 79 | Posted by: Ted and Diane

“So very sorry for your loss! Your honesty will hopefully help many although it won't take away the pain you are feeling,I hope knowing that many...Read More »
54 of 79 | Posted by: Troy

“I did not know Kodye or family, but saw his obituary on facebook via a friend. I was very touched by your choice to be honest and forthcoming with...Read More »
55 of 79 | Posted by: K. Stevens

“Prayers and Love to your family at this time ...our family went through the same type of loss 6 years ago..they are not here, but never forgotten....Read More »
56 of 79 | Posted by: Susan

“My heart goes out to you all.words can not express my sorrow for you.hold each other a little two are very strong,you will manage to get...Read More »
57 of 79 | Posted by: Dawn tuchscherer

“So, so sorry for your loss. I did not know Kodye, but lost my daughter in 2000 to suicide. She was 14. I do know your loss. look to your inner self,...Read More »
58 of 79 | Posted by: mary

“I am truly sorry for you and your family in the loss of your son. My heart pours out to you and your family in this time of soorow. ”
59 of 79 | Posted by: Stacey Otten-Wyngaard

“We were so very sorry to hear of Kodye's passing-please know you all are in our prayers. May God watch over all of you especially at this time. ”
60 of 79 | Posted by: Donald & Vicky Gagne'

“I am so sorry for your loss. Kodye was much to young to leave this earth. I can't even imagine the pain this is causing for those close to him. I...Read More »
61 of 79 | Posted by: Lisa Srenaski

“My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. ”
62 of 79 | Posted by: Shelley Duphay - Newark, CA

“I am so sorry that you have lost your son as we have lost our Erika just after Christmas. I can hardly breath knowing the hurt. Please know that I am...Read More »
63 of 79 | Posted by: Julie Winkler

“My heart aches for you all, so incredibly sorry for your loss. Many prayers being sent during this most difficult time. May you find peace and...Read More »
64 of 79 | Posted by: Lynn Chernich (Fiestedt)

“Lisa, I'm SO sorry for your loss... my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. ”
65 of 79 | Posted by: Jodi Clifford - Darboy, WI

“I do not know Kodye or his family, however, I do know the pain and hurt you are all experiencing. I am so sorry and please accept my deepest...Read More »
66 of 79 | Posted by: Brigette Murphy - Appleton, WI

“I did not personally know him but I passed him and he seemed like an amazing person I'm sorry for your loss I remember this one day me being a bubbly...Read More »
67 of 79 | Posted by: Aryssa Wright - Freedom, WI

“We are so very sorry for your loss, my son Zachary was a very good friend of kodye, he had nothing but good thing to say about your son. Our ...Read More »
68 of 79 | Posted by: Eric Dupland - Appleton, WI

“I am so incredibly sorry for your family's loss in Kodye's death. Please know you are my thoughts and prayers. ”
69 of 79 | Posted by: Dr Ann Jones - Appleton, WI

70 of 79 | Posted by: Holly Mead - Neenah, WI

“Prayers to family and friends that knew Kodye. May God comfort you during the days ahead. I am truly sorry for your loss. ”
71 of 79 | Posted by: Cindy Buelow

“My deepest sympathy on your loss of Kodye. He was a good friend to my son, who often would talk about their conversations - hockey, racing, politics,...Read More »
72 of 79 | Posted by: Amy Kierzek

“I nm so very sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family. I can't image the question and sadnessyou are all going through. So very sorry. ”
73 of 79 | Posted by: Sue Kozlovsky

“Kodye will always be my little bestie. During the time I knew him, he was like a little brother to me. He was a very sweet kid and will be missed. ”
74 of 79 | Posted by: Cara Havey - Milwaukee, WV

“I am very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with the Fassbender family. Kodye was a very good friend. Always giving us something to laugh and smile...Read More »
75 of 79 | Posted by: Ethan Thao - Appleton, WI

“So very sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with you. ”
76 of 79 | Posted by: Nancy Jimenez - Appleton, WI

“Oh Fassbenders. So very sorry for your loss. Sending hugs and well wishes during this painful time. Kodye was always such a pleasure to work with...Read More »
77 of 79 | Posted by: Tony Martin - Appleton, WI

“I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the questions and sadness you are all going through. May all the people that love you help to...Read More »
78 of 79 | Posted by: Denise

“My full heart goes out to you, Lisa and family. I can't imagine the pain you're going through. God's blessings to you all and know I'm praying for...Read More »
79 of 79 | Posted by: Paula Nelson - APPLETON, WI

Kodye Michael Fassbender, age 16 of Grand Chute, passed away on Sunday, May 7, 2017 as a result of suicide. Our home is now void of Kodye's smiling face and quick witted personality. The world is now a bit dimmer. Kodye will forever be remembered for his avid love of the outdoors, his passion for Wounded Warriors and Mission 22 organizations and his willingness to always help a friend or a fellow classmate. Kodye had quite an impact on all those who knew him. He was a proud American and respected our country with a zeal not found in most teenagers. We hope Kodye's death can be a catalyst for more open conversations around mental health and suicide awareness. If you or someone you know is struggling right now with mental health issues, please text HOPELINE to 741741. Kodye was born on December 10, 2000 in Appleton, Wisconsin. He was currently a sophomore at Appleton North High School. He is survived by: his parents, Mike and Lisa Fassbender and his sister Nycole Fassbender, grandparents; Ruth Heenan, Larry Fassbender and Margene Fassbender, aunts, uncles and cousins; Michelle and Brian Niemuth, Scott and Daureen Heenan and their children Trent and Chelsey, Terry and Mary Heenan and their children, Tanner (Jen) Kleist, Madelyn, Kolton and Danielle Heenan, Tammy and Joe Nennig and their children Joe, Jr., Amanda (Jesse) Young, Andrew (Amanda) Nennig and Lacye Jo (Adam) Althaus, Randy Heenan and his children Justin and Brooke Heenan, Shelby (fiancé Shane Van Straten) Draheim. Kodye is further survived by special friends Larry Marmes, Brian and Leah Desens and their children Jack, Sam and Emma. He is also survived by many other extended family members and some really great friends. Kodye was preceded in death by his beloved G-Pa Tom Heenan, uncles; Tony and Daniel Heenan, great-grandparents; Ervin and Lavaughn (Oatman) Anderson, James and Mildren Heenan, Elmer Fassbender, Kenneth and Margaret Surprise, great uncles, Larry Griesbach, Tom Fassbender and Rick Trittin, great aunts, Ruth Flannery and Carol Fassbender. Visitation for Kodye will be on Thursday, May 11, 2017 from 4:00pm to 8:00pm at Wichmann Funeral Homes, Superior Street location and on Friday, May 12, 2017 from 3:00pm to 4:00pm at The Mission Church, 314 N. Appleton Street in Appleton. Funeral Services for Kodye will be on Friday, May 12, 2017 at 4:00pm at The Mission Church with Rev. Dan Hintz officiating. For more information and to express condolences, please visit In lieu of flowers, a memorial scholarship is being established at Appleton North High School to aid an upcoming graduate to pursue a career in the mental health field. Memorials may also be given in Kodye's name to the Mission 22 Project or the Wounded Warrior Project. The family wishes to thank the Grand Chute Police Department, Marquette University Police Department, the Mission Church and the Victim Crisis Responders, Jennifer and Carolyn for their support in our immediate time of need. Mike, Lisa and Nycole also wish to thank all of their family and friends for their unwavering support during this especially difficult period of life. "It's been a long day, without you my friend. And I'll tell you all about it when I see you again." Kodye- We hope and pray you've found the peace you sought. Part of our hearts went to heaven with you. The remaining parts we'll hold and remember you all our days. We'll always be proud to be called your mom, dad and sister. Until we meet again, our love for you is unending. Love you. Mom, Dad and Nycole. Kodye, I am so heartbroken over losing you-you were my bud. Make sure G-Pa does the McDonald's runs til I see you again. Love and miss you. G'Ma Heenan.